A mystery guest is one of the easiest surprises to run and one of the hardest to forget. A performer, a character or an old friend walks into the room, the group acts as if nothing is happening, and the groom has to work out who booked them and why. It works in a bar, a private room, a restaurant or a hotel suite.
Who can be the mystery guest
- A tribute actAn impersonator of the groom's favourite singer who arrives with a microphone and a full set.
- A comedianA stand-up or improviser who "interviews" the groom and uses real facts from the group.
- A costumed characterA pirate, a knight or a superhero who hands over a secret mission.
- An old friendA school mate, a cousin or an ex-colleague the groom has not seen for years.
- A local performerA street musician, a magician or a dancer who fits the city you are visiting.
- A grandparent or elderA surprise guest with a toast, a story or a very serious speech.
How to run it
- Choose the guestPick someone the groom will enjoy. Think about his taste, not yours.
- Brief themShare a short list of facts: nicknames, hobbies and two stories that are safe to tell.
- Plant cluesSend a few hints in the group chat, such as a photo, a song or a riddle.
- Make it a gameGive the groom three guesses. A wrong guess earns a forfeit; a right one earns a drink.
- Plan the exitAgree how long the guest stays and where the night goes next.
Tips for the organiser
- Book early, because good performers fill up on weekends.
- Pay the deposit in advance and confirm the time two days before.
- Tell the venue, and agree where the guest will arrive.
- Ask the performer to avoid anything the groom would hate.
- Keep the budget clear so the group knows what each person pays.
- Film a short clip, with the groom's permission, for the wedding.
Keep it friendly. A mystery guest should never embarrass the groom in front of strangers, and nothing should make the bride or her family uncomfortable. If you are not sure, ask the best man to check the plan.
Props to set the scene
- Groom sash
- Dare cards
- Stickers
- Stag antlers
- Wigs